Don't Be Defined By What You Didn't Do

Once in a while, I stumble upon something in my digital meanderings that strikes a chord.  More often than not, these things hail from the same corner of the Interwebs:  TED.  TED (acronym: Technology, Entertainment, Design) is a nonprofit with a simple mission of spreading ideas. TED Talks  are the global conferences that bring together the most interesting thinkers, professionals and "do-ers", all of which deliver the "talk of their lives" in 18 minutes or less.  The topics run the gamut from global issues about educating Afghan girls to entertainment talks about the "art of asking".

This one in particular, Why 30 is not the new 20 by Meg Jay really spoke to me, and I think that it's relevant to the theme and purpose of this blog.  If you've got time, the entire talk is worth watching--it is just under 15 minutes.

You may disagree, but I think that her points are extremely valid and worth spreading in a culture that tells us 20-somethings not to worry, that we've got plenty time to find the right person and settle down, to land our dream job, to take risks.  But what if we don't?

Meg points out that by telling us 20-somethings that we have 10 extra years before actually starting our lives, you "rob that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens"

Instead of telling us 20-somethings about all of this time we have, Meg suggests that you should tell us to use our 20s to:

1) Get Identity Capital  "Do something that adds value to who you are," Meg says. "Do something that's an investment in who you might want to be next".  Honestly, this puts a fire in my belly and reminds me that I need to get cracking on my list again.  The items on it are pretty indicative of who I might want to be next.  I have been working on something from the Travel (Abroad) section of my bucket list, though, so stay tuned!

2) Take Advantage of your "weak ties"  "20-somethings that huddle together with like-minded peers limit who they know, what they know, how they think, how they speak, or where they work," Meg states.  She makes a strong case by saying that new opportunities and personal growth comes by reaching out to people beyond your circle of best friends.  I personally have found this true in my own life, and need to get started on the bucket list item about chronicling the conversations I have with strangers.  It's amazing how many times simply talking to someone new has opened the door of opportunity for me.  Note to self: Self, write this section!

3) Pick your family.  "Be as intentional with love as you are with work," Meg advises. Be deliberate in choosing the person with whom you'd like to start a relationship.  Don't brush relationships off as not really counting.  All relationships matter and should be a result of discerning choice.

I just thought that I'd share!  It got me thinking and I hope it does the same for you.  Happy Friday! :)